The Bandaid

This excerpt in blue is from a blog I read. Her name is Melissa and she is a great writer and has wonderful thoughts. I value her thoughts b/c she is a down to earth kind of gal. Not all about being perfect, painting a beautiful "mommy" picture for all to see, or expecting us to believe what she does. She just tells it like it is and we can take it or leave it. I respect people like that so much more!

Mom and I spoke to another group of women this weekend and I felt it went good, if I do say so myself.
We spoke on Passing "IT" Down and mom's words were powerful that we are to raise VICTORS not VICTIMS!
How important it is for us, as parents, to remember that we are to raise children that go to God, not to us, for their needs.
Bruises and boo-boo's are one thing, but there comes a time in the life of every child when they will come running to momma for what they need - and it will not be momma that can give it.
("But someone was unfair to me,"
"But no one chose me,"
"But that teacher doesn't like me,"
"But I didn't get what I deserve,"
"But, but, but...")
Momma's, remember that every time you try to "fix" for your child - you tie the hands of God.
Let God do what only God can do.
That way when that child is grown up and in need they know exactly WHO to go to.
Here's hoping that we teach our children that: Life isn't fair, but God is good!

All the time. (from the Strechmarks blog).

I think this is a VERY important lesson to teach our children. I know I often have the urge to want to "fix" things for my children by talking to their teacher, coach, leader, even a friend's mom. As a teacher, I get frustrated when parents come in all the time, worried about mundane things and I try very hard not to be that person. I often tell my children to work things out for themselves, but do not always point them in the direction for God to help them. At night, if they've had a rough day, I will lead them in a prayer to ask God for help to be better behaved tomorrow, but why don't I help them ask God for help when it's trouble at school? I don't know...something to work on!
Also, another thought...we can't "protect" our children all their lives. We have to let go some each day and guide them through the process of separation, peer pressure, etc. I am glad that I can be with my children and help them through their first day of school, first dance, first exposure to alcohol, first date, first teacher conflict, etc. No life isn't perfect and I can't fix it, but I can show them how to deal with imperfections of life, by asking for help from God.